Don't Waste Your Seed. It's more than just a baby mama!

The ground that you sow in will reproduce more of its own kind. If one plants apple seeds and he is an orange, he should not expect apples, but something that has the look and characteristics of an apple and an orange. Although it might taste great (if you like both fruits), and it might have a distinguished look and maybe even pleasing to the eye, but it will produce what it originated from – whatever that is.

Something as simple as what I just said could possibly change the lives of men and women, teen boys and girls around the world for generations to come. So please, take this in and follow me here…

The power of the seed doesn’t get the necessary props that it deserves. Just one seed of some fruits and plants can generate a harvest of its own kind. Although humans don’t produce a harvest from one seed (at one time – except multiple births), but we do multiply and reproduce beginning with a seed.

I was intrigued and equally stunned when I read in Genesis about spilling the seed. …And Judah took a wife for Er, his firstborn, whose name was Tamar. And Er, Judah’s firstborn, was wicked in the sight of the LORD; and the LORD slew him. And Judah said unto Onan, go unto thy brother’s wife, and marry her, and raise up seed to thy brother. (Reproduce and have children with your dead brother’s wife – continuing the name of that family, etc.). And Onan knew that the seed (baby) should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother’s wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother. (Impregnate his brother’s wife)

Although Onan was disobedient, and I’m not applauding him for his disobedience. In fact, this is not about whether or not we think he should have had sex with his brother’s wife or not, we’re talking about the power of the seed and how it is used is up to us – being responsible. Back in the days of long ago, it was expected for this activity to take place within families; so it doesn’t matter how we feel about it now anyway. Onan knew he didn’t want to produce a child so he spilled his seed onto the ground to prevent the conception from taking place. Well, this day and time we don’t have to spill seed on the ground (although many of us thought/think it works 100% - it doesn’t), we have contraceptives to prevent ‘unwanted spill/seed sharing’.

Men. What does this say to you? What message comes to you from what I’ve said. It doesn’t necessarily have to be what I’ve said, but what the Word says. What does your heart say to you regarding your seed?

Ladies. What does it speak to you about seed sowing and allowing seed to be sown into your womb? In what way do you look at this powerful messages about your seed?

This is so powerful that the thought came to mind and I just had to research some more and write about it.

In the Bible, as well as these times, generations start from a seed. Your lineage depends on who shared what seed with whom.

When I see mothers and fathers of beautiful children not getting along or hating one another when they once thought enough of that person to lay with and have a child, it bothers me. Ah! I get it! It wasn’t always about caring for the person was it? Maybe it was the act that silenced the ounce of sanity that was left in our brains that kept us from hearing, “What am I thinking? I wouldn’t want to marry him/her if a baby is conceived! Woe…stop!” Nope! Our eyes are wide shut when this happens. We allow signals to be sent from our private parts to our brains instead of allowing them to work together. The heart goes silent during those times (for many or us).

I wouldn’t know the statistics to give an accurate percentage, but I’d be willing to say the percentage is quite high of the individuals who never stop to think about what type of ground they are sowing their seed into. Just like in the Bible (Matthew 13:1-8) when Jesus spoke on the parables regarding what types of soil will bring about a harvest.

The same day went Jesus out of the house, and sat by the sea side.

2 And great multitudes were gathered together unto him, so that he went into a ship, and sat; and the whole multitude stood on the shore.

3 And he spake many things unto them in parables, saying, Behold, a sower went forth to sow;

4 And when he sowed, some seeds fell by the way side, and the fowls came and devoured them up:

5 Some fell upon stony places, where they had not much earth: and forthwith they sprung up, because they had no deepness of earth:

6 And when the sun was up, they were scorched; and because they had no root, they withered away.

7 And some fell among thorns; and the thorns sprung up, and choked them:

8 But other fell into good ground, and brought forth fruit, some an hundredfold, some sixtyfold, some thirtyfold.

My man, my man…

Are you sowing with a woman who has proven to be thorny ground? Does she not prove to be a woman of integrity, substance and respect? Is she more than a beautiful face and a body? What does that speak for you? Is that who you are? Is that the person that what you want to add {who you are} to who she is and reproduce after her own kind? Oh, don’t fool yourself! Even if the child comes out looking like you and you alone, my dear, her DNA is intertwined throughout that child’s blood; and the bloodline will continue throughout generations to come.

Ladies, are you so blinded by what you want to see and you’re missing what is really there and producing after him and his bloodline? Is his ground thorny? What have you see him produce? Beautiful fruit grows from healthy trees. Does he have fruits all over town? If so, how is that working out for him? I’m not downing anyone for multiple children, I am only giving you something to think about. What is it that attracts you to his tree (his character)? A toned buff body and a bad attitude will transfer to his seed. Let’s remove what will be transferred to the seed (child) and think about what you’re connecting yourself to for the rest of your child’s life! Will it be unpleasant fights and arguments of regret? Will it be a life of drugs, partying and alcohol? Would it be tying yourself to a family that you wouldn’t choose if you had a choice, for nothing in this world? Oh my word! Would it be baby mama drama from you or another baby mama? Think!!! Guys, I’m talking to you too! This goes for each of us. If you thought of all of these things and those that I didn’t include – good for you! If you didn’t, here’s your chance. I do know that some people take all of those things into consideration and make great choice. The evidence is out there.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about a married couple who have gone through the expected process of marrying and starting a family. Not that we always choose productive good ground, but at that point…we go to God and ask Him to teach us His ways and guide us in rearing up what we have already brought into this world. Forgive us because we knew not what we were doing in our choosing. (hahaha)

Notice in verse 4 of Matthew 13 where it states that some of the seeds fell by the wayside and the fowl came and devoured them. (They weren’t SOWN properly. They were fallen on the wayside and not buried – leaving it uncovered). What have been uncovered in your sowing? Did you sow into a shallow ground (shallow person)? One who acts 12 instead of 35?

Verse 5 talks more about no deepness of the earth to be sown in, and the ground was stony. I’m from the country, and when dad would till the soil, we’d take any rocks out of the row that were visible. You kept turning the soil until you knew that the rocks were no longer present. When you plant, you want smooth soil to ensure proper growth.

I know you’re probably saying, “Well just great! Hindsight is 20/20.” That’s true, but some of the choices we make aren’t always hindsight. We go in expecting change later, or have no expectations at all. Yeah, I know. We think, “I’m not trying to marry him/her. I’m just dating!” Well if you’re just dating, then we shouldn’t have to worry about reproducing then. Am I right? That would be ideal, but it’s not what happens! We get upset and claim that we didn’t want a person and had no intentions of marrying that person, but we do everything that married people do and get blindsided when a child is conceived. That is crazy!

In verse 6 it talks about when the sun came up it (the seed) was scorched, had no root and withered away. Anything planted that does not take root will be exposed easily and destroyed by the elements of nature (sun, wind, birds). We can be connected to individuals whose roots were never grounded – they are exposed and damaged. They are like a live wire that will electrocute anything that is near and not grounded. Some people we connect with roots have been scorched by the things they have been exposed to in life. The hurt, the pain and the lack of trust imposed on them by others that were not their own fault; but no matter whose fault it is/was, it must be healed or it will be passed on – or brought up when triggered. Unhappy and unwanted conceptions will bring about many triggers! I know!

Is your seed falling amongst thorny ground and being choked out, as in verse 7? When the seed fell amongst thorns, thorns sprung up. (Producing from its environment/own kind). No matter what you say or do, does it seems to be choked out? You can’t seem to reason with that person because it’s a ground of thorns!

Listen, that ground of thorns might be someone else’s paradise, but not yours! I don’t mean not yours as in someone else’s wife or husband – that’s another topic within itself. That is SURE NUFF (old school slang) thorny ground. I’m talking about just because a person is not for you doesn’t necessarily mean that person is damaged goods. It means YOU should stay away from them, or do it the right way.

What’s the right way? Being healed, courting and making sure that person is who you would be delighted to marry and be a part of a family with before reproducing. Yep! That’s it! I finally understand why the Word tells us how to start families.

Finally, we get to some good ground in verse 8. We learn here where the seed fell onto good ground, brought forth fruit – a hundred, sixty and some thirty fold. That is reproduction at its best, because good ground brings forth good fruit.

Be very careful with your seed. The planter, the planted and the soil makes all the difference. Our orchards (families, communities, cities and world) is depended upon your choices. Choose them wisely.

#seed #marriage #babymama #conception

© 2017 by Angel Tucker-Carr

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